It’s 11:16 on the morning of January 1st, 2014, and I am the only one awake here. Last night was spent at an annual New Year’s party at the home of our dear friends, the Foxes. Once again, a grand time was had by all. I want to take a moment to thank our “playgroup” friends for the numerous ways in which they have contributed over the years to making our lives rich, joyous and low-stress.
When Hallie was a toddler, we joined an infant playgroup through a local chapter of MOMS Club. If you are a mom, and you haven’t heard of MOMS Club, you should. Honestly, I don’t know what I would have done with little kids ~ 3,000 miles from my hometown and all of my extended family ~ without the support I received from the wonderful people I met through MOMS Club. Check them out here https://www.momsclub.org/ to find more information, locate a chapter in your area, or start one of your own. I guarantee, you will not regret it.
Over the years, five families from Hallie’s MOMS Club infant playgroup have remained close. The other four families have become our family here. We have picked up each other’s kids from school, enjoyed moms and/or dads nights out, played, had sleepovers, partied, vacationed and grown together. The 5 girls (formerly known as infants) are now teenagers, and remain the best of friends. We are the only family with an older child, and one of 4 with a younger child. The other children are best of friends, too, as are the adults.
I honestly do not know what we would do without all of these wonderful people in our lives. I need people in my life. I am a terrible loner. I mean, I guess I am interesting enough for a while, but, having grown up close to my large extended family, I need to be surrounded by people. For my kids, this is like growing up with cousins, aunts and uncles nearby was for me. We celebrate one another’s victories, and mourn each other’s losses. We may not be blood, but we are family.
The reason I bring this up today is that I have decided that my major focus this year is going to be on keeping life as low-stress for myself, Shane and the kids as possible. With a new house, Shane working multiple jobs, me not working due to continuing health challenges, one kid looking at colleges, another at high schools and the third at middle schools, you might think this would be difficult, and you’d be 100% correct. That’s why I am so grateful for the support we receive from our friends and family, near and far.
So, for instance, when I can know that, on New Year’s Eve, we can all count on having a wonderful time partying safely at a friends’ home ~ where big kids can do their thing, little kids can do their thing, and grown-ups can do their thing, all safe under one roof, that takes a lot of stress off me ~ no celebration to plan, no arrangements to make for kids; just throw on a dress and bring an appetizer to share. That’s my kind of party! (And I won chocolate in one of the party games, and we all know good chocolate melts away stress.)
When we can throw a simple Tree-Trimming party at home and have it turned in a fabulous, memorable event when one of the other dads in our group gets the kids organized enough to put on a little variety show for guests, we realize, again, just how deeply our friendships enrich ours lives and the lives of our children. I have tried, but have never managed to host the party AND get the kids to provide entertainment, ‘though it has always been a dream of mine.
When I can know that, if my kid suffers the effects of severe asthma while on vacation in the mountains, I am going to have a support system in place, right there with me ~ when Shane’s boss gives us a trip to the spa during that same vacation, nobody will mind if we leave our kids at the house for a few hours while we slip off to the spa to relax after Holiday stress and pushed up deadlines ~ it takes so much stress off us as parents. I am eternally grateful for the continued support of our playgroup friends ~ ‘though, now, “play” often means watching Sherlock, Doctor Who and anime, or practicing a capella arrangements ~ and I catch myself thinking, “I can only hope they know how much we appreciate them.” Then, I catch myself again; and I realize I can do more than hope. I can say it.
So, thank you, Sheryl, Tim, Megan & Marshall; Priya, Chris, Maya & Nadia; Lisa, Ray, Gianna & Ryan; Lauren, TJ & Makenzie for being our California family. Thank you for laughing, crying, playing and fighting with us, because that’s what families do.
Thank you, too, to our far-away friends and family, and to those nearby whom we see less often. We receive so much love, support and encouragement from all of you that we are constantly humbled by your compassion, your kindness and your concern for our little family. Thank you to our “Arizona family” (also a great group of friends) who supported us through college and marriage and our first venture into parenthood, and who continue to support and love us today.
More than anything, thank you all for letting us be the nutty, freaky people we are, and for loving us, anyway. Everyone should be so lucky to have such friends.
To all of our readers: I wish you a healthy, prosperous, joyful, low-stress year, in which you are surrounded by people who love you and make you feel good about yourselves. Remember, in the words of one of my favourite angels (Second-Class): “No man is a failure who has friends.”
Now, go make 2014 the best year yet.